Introduction

I'm 26 years old and a friend of mine, near my age, recently told me of a comedy bit where the comedian described our generation by saying that the slogan for our generation would be "we died with our options open". It's not inaccurate, but it terrifies me maybe because it's so accurate. I'm no better than the rest of my fellow 20-somethings. Ask me to make a decision as simple as what to eat for dinner and I'm hopeless. Forget making major life decisions like when to get married and whom to get married to or what I want to be when I grow up. I hate this about myself. My inability to make decisions has haunted me. I know I'm not the only one. I look around at my friends and acquaintances and they're just as indecisive as I am. Perhaps that should be comforting but it's really not. I see a bunch of other people who aren't married even though they've been with the same person for years. I see people my age working at jobs instead of careers because they can't make up their minds about what they truly love doing. How do we break the cycle of indecision and actually commit to something or someone. How do we stop always asking ourselves is there something or someone better out there?

I've made a small step forward. When I'm making plans to go out to dinner with someone and they ask where I'd like to go, instead of passing "I don't know where do you want to go"s back and fourth for 20 minutes I say the first restaurant I think of and just go with it. I know it's not much of a breakthrough, but like I said it's a small step. I wonder if they have a 12-step program for indecisiveness?